Super excited to have This Joyful Life back again, where she talks about mamas offering encouragement to other mama’s. Which is so relevant as I often feel judged about the way I bring up my little girl / monster!
MAMAS, OFFER UP ENCOURAGEMENT!
With an almost one year old (after typing that I still can’t believe she’s almost one.) Anyways, with an almost one year old means I have been a mom for almost a year! Whew. My goodness I have learned and changed so much this year. I am going to do my absolute best to post weekly on different aspects of motherhood that I have had thoughts about/ learned in my very first year of motherhood!
On my very first post, I want to write about something that I quickly learned after having L. My husband and I were having a conversation about something that sort of bothered me a few weeks ago. I overheard someone say something negative about a parenting tactic of an otherwise good mom. Obviously, no mom in the world is perfect. I simply think that most moms are just trying their best.
We live in a society that is incredibly judgemental towards….well, EVERYTHING. As a mom, I feel that every decision is being questioned or judged. So much conversation about “how long is breastfeeding appropriate?”, “is sleep training/cry it out cruel?”, “should a baby use a pacifier, if so….how long is too long?”, “disciplining tactics”, “bottle fed vs. breastfed”, “working mom vs. stay at home mom vs. working from home mom”, this list is seriously endless…
When my husband and I were having this conversation, we laughed because we remembered conversations pre-baby of things we would say about parenting. The matter of the fact is that I just did not know anything. I never had a baby before so how would I know!? I always thought it was so silly seeing “hover parents”…… ooops 🙂 I always said “I would never be that mom that ______” (insert whatever parenting tactic here).
So back to the beginning of my post….I became bothered by the statement of judgement because I think that as mamas, we have to stick together and offer encouragement (not continuously pass judgement). Raising little humans is such hard work. It is hard enough already having the rest of society judging every single move. Yes, parenting tactics can always be improved, but I feel that this can be done in positive ways. In ways that show other mamas that they are doing great while trying to balance and juggle the MANY things motherhood brings.
I laugh at my pre-baby self because I realize that I have changed so much. I thought then in ways that I don’t now. Then I also know that I am going to change so much more every year as my daughter grows. And I still have SO much to learn. Thankfully, I have some pretty great mamas in my life to offer up advice.
So while the rest of society is busy passing judgement. Mamas, choose to offer encouragement to other mamas and support one another!
To any mama out there that feels bombarded with society’s pressure…..you are doing great!
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